I Hate sleeping with my boyfriend

I love everything about my boyfriend except for his sleeping habits.

For years, I fantasized about moving in with my man. I dreamed of moving in with my boyfriend before I even had a boyfriend.

No matter how much you love your partner, no matter how compatible you seem, sharing a bed with someone else can be a real struggle. It can really take away from the romance when, after a few nights together, you’re both so sleep-deprived you can hardly see straight. Figuring out why you can’t fall asleep with your partner is a must if you want to avoid the very grumpy late night tossing and turning.

“If you have slept in your own bed your entire life, sleeping with someone else in the same bed is a huge deviation from what you are accustomed to, so your body naturally wants to fight it”

“We also get used to not having to deal with interruptions of any sort. Now, whether it is snoring, tossing and turning, or physically touching your body, it takes getting used to.”

What makes it so tricky to share a bed with someone else to begin with? Here’s why i hate sleeping next to my boyfriend:

1. His notifications disrupts my sleep

It’s no surprise that electronics can mess with your sleep — but now you have someone else’s phone and electronic use to worry about. “Lights and electronics can be problematic if partners are on a different schedule”

“As electronics and light exposure make it more difficult to sleep, it’s important that we can have a buffer zone around bedtime to be respectful of each other’s sleep habits.” I might want to move those phones out of the bedroom sometimes.

2. He Has Trouble Sleeping

I have always slept like a rock, but my boyfriend tends toward insomnia, his difficulty snoozing rubs off on me.

“A 2017 study found that when couples share a bed, they are more likely to share similar sleep patterns,” says Martin Reed, a certified clinical sleep health expert.

“So, if your partner struggles with sleep, you are more likely to struggle with sleep, too.” In other words, your anxiety about sleeping next to someone might come from their anxiety about sleeping in general.

3. His Body Temperature Is Disruptive

“In general, we know that a cooler environment will be better for falling and staying asleep. Having a person whose body temperature is 98.6 degrees next to you, or worse, touching you, will cause a potential disruption.” You can flip to the cool side of the pillow as much as you want, but their body is still going to work like a furnace.

4. He is always Sweating.

I don’t know but he kinda is always hot and almost sweats whenever i touch him. So this feel of wetness while touching him really irritates me sometimes and so we are unable to cuddle also due to his sweats. Which is really frustrating for me.

5. New Noises

He probably makes noises, like snoring or loud breath sounds or shuffling, whether they’re big or small, and those a lot of times keep me awake as i am not used to such sounds.

Well there can be a reason i have Misophonia !!!!

Misophonia ???

Misophonia, sometimes called selective sound sensitivity syndrome, is sensitivity to specific sounds. Some common triggers include eating sounds such as chewing, throat sounds, nasal sounds such as a person blowing their nose, and repetitive noises such as tapping or clicking a pen.

Misophonia can be extremely distressing both to the person with misophobia and their loved ones. It can cause conflict in relationships and make it difficult for couples to go to certain public places. In addition, sensitivity to the sounds a romantic partner makes may be hurtful and feel overbearing or critical.

Sure, my boyfriend might disrupt my sleep, but that doesn’t mean my relationship is doomed. “Sharing a bed will take some getting used to, but once you are familiar with the experience it will begin to get easier”. Try to make some compromises on room temperature, bedtimes, and electronic use — eventually, you may find that you can both get those full eight hours and wake up feeling rested and refreshed.

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